Lesson 44: Let Love Live Your Life

Today’s lesson is simple: cultivate love within you. Let go of how you think love should look like – the diamond ring, the white picket fence, the beach house- and instead develop as much love in your life as possible. This means acting out of compassion and kindness, instead of petty and noticing any unloving…

Lesson 43: The Enchanted Life

This chapter was another rather spiritual one and a little hard to follow. It talks about bringing magic into your everyday being and understanding love not as the phenomenon of a particular connection but rather as a state of heart, body, mind and soul that everyone should strive for. I guess by doing so, you’re…

Lesson 42: On Speaking Up

Here’s a tough nut to crack: No one can read your mind. No one can miraculously guess what you want or dream of or long for or need or hope to get from life, your partner or out of this day. And Woodward states that, if you don’t assert yourself enough into your relationships because…

Lesson 41: Listening with an Open Heart

In a day and age where feelings of loneliness, low self-esteem and lack of connection become more prevailing (at least in the US), and we decide within the first fifteen seconds of a conversation whether or not that person is worth our time and effort to listen, you really gotta wonder how we started to…

Lesson 40: Living the Questions

In a world with tragedies and lots of uncertainty, it can be comforting to be with people that seem to have all the answers. Or to be the one striving to know it all. But in this chapter, Woodward teaches us more about “living the questions”  as a way to sit with the messiness of…

Lesson 39: Being at Cause

Apparently, a study conducted at Stanford looked at the differences between a disappointing relationship and a thriving one in over 1500 people. The one disparity that emerged was how much one party was blaming the other for problems in the relationship. Woodward explains that, often times, when we have a hard time being responsible for…

Lesson 38: Overthrowing the Boogeyman

I got good news and bad news. Bad news first: We all carry certain fears in us that dictate our actions, stop us from taking risks and control our relationships to others. Good news is: We can overcome them. Apparently. Woodward states that many fears are actually our way to resist the inevitable ebb and…

Lesson 37: On Being Happy

Oh, this is a big one. The pursuit of happiness.. So, Woodward claims that she can talk about finding happiness because, by the time she found herself in her early thirties, she was fighting an eating disorder (overeating), been broken up with by her long-term boyfriend and failed to create a career in singing. She went back…

Lesson 36: Generosity- the Essential Ingredient

In today’s chapter, Woodward preached the importance of being generous towards others and extending love constantly, even if it’s love that you feel is missing in your life. It goes along with practicing self-sacrificing: Giving, without an attachment to getting anything in return. Giving up to be right or look good or punish someone for hurting you…

Lesson 35: Cultivating Solitude

This chapter was definitely another very interesting read today that proved rather challenging to translate to daily life though. Woodward talks about the difficulty of embracing solitude. Difficult both because everyday life is so distracting and because you never know what monsters you may find within yourself when you can’t do anything but be. Apparently, Woodward…

Lesson 34: On Developing Emotional Literacy

Today’s chapter was very relatable and made up for the confusion I’ve felt after reading about sexual healing yesterday. It started off with a very shocking number, stating that 67% of all newly married couples in the US get divorced. Sure, she doesn’t go deeper in defining what “newly married” means or what age groups…

Lesson 33: On Sexual Healing

I’m sorry guys, this was a much longer break from studying “The One” than anticipated. Moving is both fun and tedious and the last couple weeks have kept me pretty busy and making our new apartment feel like home and exploring our new neighborhood had been my main focus until now. Though, I have to say that I hadn’t…